Charis Vera's
Pencil sketchings and lip crashings
Saturday, August 20, 2022
Day One
Friday, August 20, 2021
Day One
Tuesday, August 3, 2021
Monday, May 3, 2021
It Starts With The First Step
Monday, October 5, 2020
The World In 2020- People taking personal offence to help being offered to a community that does not include them
So here are my thoughts:
As the author said (politely and patiently I might add) ,
"no one person's pain or suffering is comparable, but we must acknowledge the disproportionate number of South Asian / immigrant women who face abuse in their homes."
The responses to the post raising issue about the community she has chosen to specifically support are disappointing to read.
If only people could acknowledge that all our cultural backgrounds and differences play a significant factor in our perspectives.
Helping one community is never intended to negate the needs or traumas of another.
Yes, it would certainly be nice to have something like this available to all the different communities of different genders/race/sexual orientation who suffer from domestic violence - and there already are for a lot of these.
What the author of this post has burdened on her is a need to help à community she feels deeply for and where her insight has allowed her a deep understanding of the extent of trauma rippling through this community.
Again, there is so much that is specific to the South Asian Community that those outside of it cannot begin to understand. Again none of this is being said to negate anyone's traumatic experiences, wherever you come from.
Already I write this response almost certainly expecting backlash and responses from many who take offence. Yet I am hoping that in writing this, people learn to understand that one person's call to help a specific group of people does not equate holding their worth or their traumas above another group or community.
It's like the whole counter-Black Lives Matter movement (all lives matter) . Black Lives Matter was not created to mean Black lives matter *more*. And until you are a black person who has to raise your child in a world where they can be shot for the colour of their skin, you cannot imagine to understand.
Again, it's like people raising issue with Breast Cancer Awareness because "what about all the other cancers".
An awareness of one issue is not to demean all other issues.
So, we can sit here behind our screens and voice discontent at someone who is doing something to help her community (because it doesn't include all the other communities)...
Or maybe.. We can ourselves do something about it and do something to actually contribute to all these other communities that we feel need help.
Tuesday, February 12, 2019
Fall
Monday, October 22, 2018
Tuesday, August 7, 2018
Santa Monica Dreamin'
Saturday, July 21, 2018
Notes From A Teenager, A Decade On
Tuesday, May 29, 2018
New Beginnings, New Learning Curves
Tuesday, October 17, 2017
Flashback
Thursday, November 3, 2016
Sunday, May 15, 2016
Look at the stars
And how they shine for youBut the ways words fall to pieces In our hands, and tears swim in front of our eyes and suddenlyWe're bursting at the seams.
Saturday, February 20, 2016
Thursday, January 28, 2016
[My sister. My best friend. And everything else. ]
"She's not coming" you say, throwing your phone across the sofa
"Neither is she" I respond, impassively.
"So"
"So."
"Kawfee?"
"Kawfee."
Tuesday, January 12, 2016
My grandmother's stories (part I)
"That's okay, I think it was me- I wasn't thinking straight"
"We're old, it happens. I'm sorry."
"Don't be sorry, it's okay. We can take it slow. We're old, we've got time."
Thursday, September 3, 2015
Dear Singapore
I'm on my way out the country to a destination frequented by Singaporean folk. We're still in the country and we were just having a discussion on multi-culturalism versus interculturalism. What also came up was the attacking and general resentment of foreign immigrants- whether blue collared or white collared. The family and I were just relating our own tales of being subject to behaviour of this sort. (Of course not leaving out moments when a Singaporean HAS come to our defensive and such)
The table next door seems to have overheard us and has proceeded to switch to mandarin and begin speaking horribly of us- presumably because they figure we can't understand.
"她们la-那个angmoh 的"
"都是这样的lor."
They have also proceeded to (in a failed attempt) discreetly take pictures of us.
I guess I'm really sad. Just really, really sad.
Despite never having felt at home in this country, there is still so much I have grown to appreciate and love immensely. And there are so many people who I've met here, spent most of my life with, people who have Contributed to making me more of a person than I could've ever hoped to become.
There are so many good people here, so many genuine and friendly and loving Singaporeans I could never imagine doing life without.
But then things like this happen and I realize:
It doesn't matter how much I love what I have here or how sincerely grateful and blessed I feel to have gotten to live and and spent time in Singapore. Sure she's got her shortcomings- but name me a place that doesn't?
Yet despite that, it doesn't seem enough.
Never mind that I contribute to the society (I'd like to think), and the economy. Never mind that I teach in local schools and Strive towards igniting a love for the English language and literature and the arts. Never mind that I am burdened with continuous want to remind teenagers here that they are enough, that they are talented in their own ways and that I want to be a source of encouragement where they often feel like they only ever do things wrong. Never mind that some part of me (I have come to realize) truly does care about this society and the people who've been ostracized...
Moments like these, or incidences where even now, in the year 2015 I still have been told to my face,
"Stupid foreigner go back to your own country"-
It just makes me realize
I'm not welcome here, am i?
We aren't welcome.
And so,
When my kids ask me
"Ms C but why? Why Singapore..? Why would you want to live here?"
And I smile and say,
"Now isn't that the million dollar question, hey?"
I'm not saying it with resentment or any amount of snark. I'm saying it with a very special level of sadness and heartache that was formed and only belongs here.
Having said all this though, I refuse for my posts to sound so bloody tragic. So I'd like instead to take time here to say thank you to all the amazing Singaporeans I have come to know and love here. So many of you are my go-to people and I cannot begin to tell you how grateful I am for you. And even when I go off on rants like these, please know that whenever I am asked why I'm still living here,
I think of you.
Wednesday, August 26, 2015
Once upon an August 26th-
And life would've been unfathomable without you.
Thursday, August 13, 2015
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.
Wednesday, July 29, 2015
Thursday, July 16, 2015
Tuesday, June 30, 2015
Wednesday, June 17, 2015
Monday, June 15, 2015
Breaking point
I am so afraid of heights and yet, when I think of ways out I think of
Parapets, corners, bridges, too many levels up and the way I cannot hear my tears fall against the concrete floor.
If my body falls, will it make a sound?
And if it doesn't, does it mean it's actually fallen at all?
Did you know,
You can fall in love in so many ways.
And did you know? Even after, you can keep falling in love...
Over and over and over again.
But did you also know that you can keep Falling and you tell yourself it doesn't hurt but Jesus Christ it does and you wish you wouldn't hurt, wish you could outrun this bullshit
But then you're numb numb numb
And sitting on the couch with your coffee wishing for the first time that you had your tears and your sadness-
Do you know why?
Because it's all that's left of her.
And that matters.
It's almost like, all that sadness caused by that absence..
That absence of her...
That's all you have left.
That's all you've got left darling.
Saturday, June 13, 2015
Pink Dot 2015
Today, I was part of the 28,000 people gathered at this amazing event. I've received looks of alarm when I admit I haven't been before. Perhaps because I've never been the sort to shove my flag in people's faces, and I kinda wondered if this would be doing that. But then today I realized it's really just a big happy party of families and children and grass and dogs and balloons and picnics and wine and love. Just an outpouring of so much love- it's so heartening to see heterosexual couples come, to see families and their children be there. Because their being there screams "you deserve all this love as much as we do".
Also having chilled out picnics, good conversation, listening to good writers and speakers- that's really what we do. There isn't any gay agenda. If there was, that would probably be it: chill out, have awesome picnics and good conversations with people you love. And just, be.
Friday, June 12, 2015
Secret
I can feel all these things
Such that if
You ask me if I feel sorry,
The answer is
No. I don't.
Because finally,
I can feel again.
Thursday, June 11, 2015
Relativity.
Friday, June 5, 2015
Pick it up, pick it all up. And start again.
Thursday, June 4, 2015
That's a fine looking high horse
Sunday, May 31, 2015
Beginnings of endings and endings of
Tuesday, May 26, 2015
Monday, May 25, 2015
Off days
Wish we were honest
Wish we were okay
Wish there was more to us
Than this
Step 01
To find balances, to breathe easier,
To drink my morning coffee without crying for half an hour
To sit on the empty couch without doing a double take realizing you're not there.
I am trying to get to know myself again;
Trying to listen to my body and what it needs and wants
Learning to respect it
Giving myself time to understand it better.
Mostly,
I am trying to learn to not be so sad.
Tuesday, May 19, 2015
Friday, May 15, 2015
Jukebox
Wednesday, May 6, 2015
Spinning in a teacup
Around and around and around and around
Sometimes it doesn't feel like we're going anywhere
We're just going around and around and around
Until you've spun away, I've lost your teacup
I'm in my own, alone,
Just going in circles.
Around and around and around and around
Thursday, April 30, 2015
So one day you come to the conclusion that you've officially reached the maximum amount of hurt you can feel.
And that kinda sucks but it's also like,
No really, it can't get anymore painful than this.
And then
Something else comes around and you're like.
Oh wait, hey,
It can actually get more painful.
you're the joke.
Sunday, April 26, 2015
Words from an ex lover
"I will not ask you to stay
If you must go, go
I don't need you
I will breathe (carefully) without you
I will smile (slowly) without you
I will go on (eventually) without you
I'd be much happier
If you chose to not leave,
But if you must let go, let go
And I will too
And hopefully one day
I will teach my heart to not break
Whenever everyday thoughts
Lead to you
I'm afraid I'm much too weak,
I'm afraid we'll always be
A book with the end pages ripped out,
I'm afraid I'll always wonder,
Always ache,
Always place everyone second to you
I'm afraid I'll always love you
But I will not ask you to stay."
Fucking wreck
And the light's always red in the rearview
Desperately close to a coffin of hope
I'd cheat destiny
Just to be near you
Far, far away
She doesn't know where she's at anymore.
"It would've been illegal not to come over and talk to you"
Monday, April 20, 2015
Sunday, April 19, 2015
I'm All Left Turns
It has also been quite an experience teaching and working with the participants of Miss C's Little Blackbox - with it all leading up to this!
In our devised piece
I'm All Left Turns (and I don't know which is right).
We explore how our parents got to being the people they are today, and summon the courage to tell them all the things we wish they knew.
Cast:
Stefi Ooi
Gopi Arivalakan
Ambry Nurhayati
Seah Bei Ying
Emil Ong
Directed by Charis Vera
Written & Conceptualised by Charis Vera & Marvin Wong, together with the actors of Ms C's Little Blackbox.
Tickets available on:
Saturday, April 4, 2015
Writing letters that I know won't reach you
My ghost
Where'd you go?
I can't find you in the body sleeping next to me
My ghost
Where'd you go?
What happened to the soul, that you used, to be?
Friday, March 27, 2015
Sitting with your demons and choosing not to fight
However much time you've spent running away,
You'll never outrun yourself.
And when it feels like most of your time is spent fighting off everything else,
really, the last person you want to fight is yourself.
And then,
There is calm.
Just like you used to know.
yes,
I'm alright.
I thought I used to know how to get myself there
It's relief that I never forgot.
So,
"Yes, yes I am."
Friday, March 13, 2015
Shelter
Tuesday, March 3, 2015
still
So grab your scarf and goggles, let's fly!
I've mapped out our journey, we're up here to stay.
A sunset is our home
A moonbeam we will own
My Spirit of Adventure is you!
Unsteady and shaking, it is all she can do to hang on to these words.
But all she knows is this unfathomable, ineffable pain that's burning the inside of her veins, eating away at all the things that keep her together.
Forces a smile she knows you cannot see, managing a
"Nothing"
Because that, that's kinda what it is. It isn't anything until you make it something. And it isn't supposed to be anything to begin with anyway.
Nothing.
It's nothing,
It's nothing, it's nothing.
And if she says it enough,
maybe it'll dull all the razor sharp blades that feel like they're running patterns on the inside of her skin,
Maybe it'll stop the way she hates herself for feeling all the things she does,
Maybe it'll make her feel less like an idiot,
Like she is the biggest fool in a game she didn't ask to play.
It's nothing.
It's nothing.
It's nothing.
Monday, March 2, 2015
Sleeping with the lights on
I watch an endless stream of cooking shows, teary eyed and nursing too many glasses of gin and tonic.
And I wait.
Monday, February 23, 2015
Saturday, February 14, 2015
Undercover, Under covers
Weave me into the threads of your stories, stitch me into your patchwork of adventures. Let me hold you together in the ways you unravel me.
Sunday, February 8, 2015
If you want me
Run
Tuesday, February 3, 2015
Mismatch
Or sit beside me and breathe and tell me, just by being here, that it will be okay.
You cannot reach for me and have me lean into your touch,
Feeling for the one right thing in a world going wrong.
And that's not your fault.
It's not your fault that you cannot fit in all the ways another has before,
Or that you don't make my breath catch at the thought of you.
It's not your fault
That someone can be all the things you need them to be, for you,
But you can't be that for them.
And I'm sorry,
That as much as you want to be,
You can't.
Friday, January 30, 2015
Dull throb
And when they blistered I started to cry
Because that meant in time, it would hurt less, and eventually go away.
And I cannot say I'd know who I am without the pain.
Also,
Most days,
This ache is all I have left of you
And I don't want to lose that too.
Sunday, January 25, 2015
The unclaimed
I wonder if you can spend so much time looking for something that's lost, that you forget what it was to begin with.
And then I wonder,
When you do find it, will you even recognize it?
Will that even matter by then?
Saturday, January 24, 2015
Lying on the Moon
But with you, my dear,
I'm safe and we're a million miles away.
Sunday, January 18, 2015
Wednesday, January 14, 2015
She always knew my name.
Her voice is cold, familiar, snaking itself around and pulling me to her.
She was the echo off comforting bathroom floors, the constant gentle murmur that would find me when the flush of toilets drowned out all thought.
There are so many days you have fooled yourself into thinking you've run far enough away,
Until she finds you.
And oh, she always knows where to find you.
Sunday, January 11, 2015
Thursday, January 8, 2015
Monday, January 5, 2015
And I start back at One
Tripping up on all the questions that play on the edge of her tongue and
Finding spaces between sentences for doubt to paint ugly pictures
Until
She wanders, eyes closed, back into places of safety.
Back to a place where she can find proper footing,
Back to where it is okay to take a breath
And
Start. again.
Friday, January 2, 2015
Thursday, December 25, 2014
Stumbling precariously along dirt roads in life
She holds your hand just a little too tight
But she smiles just a little bit when someone says "you're mine"
And there are stories she saves
For quiet midnight moons
Songs she sings when she's alone in her room
You don't have to be broken
To know how to break
Silences that echo, that echo with hate
Embedded so deep in the cracks of her bones
The ones she runs her fingers along
When she's all alone
And you don't have to say all the things you don't mean
You don't have to help her paint
such picturesque dreams
Because I'll bet she can unravel
All the prettiest lies
And still mean it when she says,
She'll stay through the night
Sunday, December 21, 2014
Saturday, December 20, 2014
Collectives
Herds.
Crash.
A crash of rhinoceros.
Improbability.
An improbability of puffins.
An improbability.
Thursday, December 18, 2014
Adventure is out there
One who's packing his life into boxes,
Another who's doing so much work from behind a screen she hardly feels productive some days..
It is as mortifyingly scary as it is thrilling and exciting,
But here we are.
On the precipice of beginning something that holds so much promise,
So much wonder and anticipation of the stories waiting to be told.
I've always been in love with theatre and the process of drama-making.
And someone (wise, I'm sure) did say,
To spread the love.
Wednesday, December 10, 2014
Wintery nights in Osaka
"Like...? I don't know?"
"Like that's all you'll ever need. Like this one person- and that's all."
Monday, December 8, 2014
Sunday, December 7, 2014
Always the fool
It's like your written words are a rush of white noise
While my voice
Has gone coarse
with things I have asked too many times
So remind her how to breathe
Go on, make her believe
What else is there to hold on to,
When we stand on such shaky ground?
I don't know what you're saying-
Your written words are a rush of white noise
And I know a girl, poised-
Waiting
To catch your truth in all its varying shades
Holding tight
With her cut up fingers and cut up hands
Hoping
to feel whole again.
Friday, December 5, 2014
Sunday, November 30, 2014
I don't know if I'm strong enough now
Friday, November 28, 2014
Thursday, November 27, 2014
Winter
It's just medicine
And what do you with all that sad?
Because whether you're warm and at home, surrounded by people you know actually love you,
Or far away, feeling cold in all senses of the word, and alone and emptied out-
It's still the same, isn't it?
And how can you love someone you don't know?
How can you know me,
When there are too many days where I realize,
I don't think i know myself?
Getting lost in big cities where no one knows your name
"It would've been illegal not to come over and talk to you."
Because I'm just a girl
Choose me
Love
Me
--------------------
All this talk about laying claim..
When the strings I have, are only the ones I choose to keep.
Wednesday, November 26, 2014
Silly little girl, stupid little girl
Monday, November 24, 2014
Ashes
Is there a chance
Dear world
Or tell me I can "talk about it" when
There's nothing to talk about
There isn't.
I would go in endless circles and end up back in square one
There is nothing within my control, not anymore
And if I stopped for a half second long enough to place what I feel,
I am only reminded of how I cannot and shouldn't.
Dear world,
It isn't always black and white,
You know that full well.
But even grey has its shades
And sometimes things fall on such in-betweens of the colour spectrum that we cannot see but know is there
Dear world,
You don't have to stop for me,
Or pretend that you will
Because you won't.
Things keep spinning and I will step on and off every so often
Sure,
There are nights I feel like I'm the only one left spinning,
And on a completely different axis, at that.
Sometimes I wake up to better days than others
And sometimes I wonder why the night before didn't just take me with it.
But for one who has always encouraged an endless stream of talking until things make sense-
This is not something I feel i can ever make sense of, at least not right now.
So world,
Just don't right now okay?
Just don't.
C
Saturday, November 22, 2014
Wednesday, November 19, 2014
Honesty is a bottle of gin
I can't tell dreams from truth
For it's been so long since I have seen you
I can hardly remember your face anymore
When I get really lonely and the distance causes only silence
I think of you smiling with pride in your eyes a lover that sighs
If you want me satisfy me
If you want me satisfy me
Are you really sure that you believe me
When others say I lie
I wonder if you could ever despise me
When you know I really tried
To be a better one to satisfy you for you're everything to me
And I'll do what you ask me
If you let me be free
If you want me satisfy me
If you want me satisfy me
The end of my rapidly fraying rope
Why don't you?
To reach all the places you think are too far to feel.
Come,
I dare you.
You can't lose,
It's true-
When you take on all the things
The voices say you cannot do.
Ears that ring with numbness
You can't hurt me anymore than this
And how it's broken me in more ways than I know how to count
Help me place this pain
All these drinks and smokes do nothing to erase this
Knowing-
that I am not the one you choose. This Feeling
That I will always lose
This game I don't know how to play
These words, I'm not supposed to say, so..
Darling, teach me how to cope
Knowing I
Am not allowed to hope
Tell me what
To expect, that now
We need to choose the hats
That make us different persons
And
I'm standing, on grounds that shake
I question, where I am and then pick
only choices that make me
Fuzz out
All the things I'm reading
Cos baby,
You do such a job
Of keeping
Me numb and breaking
Along fault lines
I thought stopped existing
Monday, November 17, 2014
Because you taught me how to be still, and come
Nicely written and beautifully shot, I cannot express how thrilled I was to be part of this production. Getting to work with the same horses I'd gotten so close to in the last few years was also a huge perk for me- It was new and exciting, to see two different bits of my life kinda come together the way it did.
It's funny how stuff works but being able to share what I have personally experienced and also watched unfold in children who have gone through the program is something that meant a whole lot to me.
I hope you enjoy it just as much as we did making this!
To the amazing people who were behind this- thank you and working with you guys was nothing short of fun and wonderful.
Special Thanks of course, must go to
Damiro, who is SUCH a handsome boy and steals the show. Thank you for being so patient and lovely
And Lili who always came out to cuddle right on cue and who is the prettiest girl in the film.
And to the one who first taught me to come as I am, in all my self-doubt and vulnerability, who helped me learn again what it meant to just, be..
Thank you,
for bringing me to where I am today.
So Can You - A Short Film from Warrior9 on Vimeo.
Saturday, November 15, 2014
Here in these deep city lights
Wednesday, November 12, 2014
Saturday, November 1, 2014
And I know that in the morning, I'll have to let you go
Don't you see me crying?
And I know that you can't do it all
but you can't say I'm not trying.
Friday, October 31, 2014
Don't listen to a word I say
If you want me
I can't tell dreams from truth
For it's been so long since I have seen you
I can hardly remember your face anymore
When I get really lonely and the distance causes only silence
I think of you smiling with pride in your eyes
a lover that sighs
Wednesday, October 29, 2014
Fine, I'll be just fine.
And looking into gardens
Trying not to see you in every single thing I pass.
How
How
Can I forget your love?
How can I never see you again?
How can I ever know
Why some stay, others go
When I don't
I don't want you to go?
There's not one moment
I'd erase.
You are a guest here now.
Sunday, October 26, 2014
I have never known a trip more bittersweet, more full and yet filled with such aching emptiness at the same time.
I have never laughed more than I have this week in the last three months, and I have never known I could feel so much like I am breaking apart at the same time.
I hope you know,
I've left my heart with you.